How to Get an Aries Man to Open Up (Communication tips 101)
Finding it hard to have a real conversation with your Aries crush?
While Aries men are known as direct and even articulate communicators, these men can often keep their personal lives a secret and aren’t always the best option for casual conversation.
If you’re looking to take your relationship with an Aries man to the next level, however, it’s crucial that you get him to open up.
Don’t worry—doing so is easier than it may seem. In this guide, I’ll go over some important information regarding Aries men, their preferred style of communication, and effective ways at getting them to open up.
Keep reading to find out how to deepen your conversations with that special Aries in your life.
Also Read: Get your Aries guy to chase you
Aries Men and Communication Style
It’s impossible to get an Aries man to open up to you if you don’t understand his unique mode of communication. It’s important to note from the outset that you’re not alone in your difficulties attempting to establish a more intimate dialogue with an Aries man. Direct, to-the-point, and tight-lipped, these men are notoriously hard to crack at first.
For this reason, let’s take a look at some specific aspects of an Aries man’s communication style:
Aries men can be quite blunt—even to the point of rudeness. Though these men generally mean no ill will, they can often be uninvitingly direct in their evaluations of situations or people. Unfortunately, Aries men often speak with no filter, meaning they can say things they regret, particularly when they’re angry.
Still, however, an Aries values blunt communication because he sees it as a more honest form of dialogue. For this reason, it’s best not to mistake his comments for ill-will and to offer the same honesty to him in return.
This is because Aries men are able to handle a surprising level of directness from others when conversing. While these masculine men do not like to be challenged or doubted, they are open to constructive criticism and aren’t overly sensitive. The flipside to this, of course, is because they are so comfortable with directness, they can often be overly blunt, as mentioned before.
Despite an Aries man’s bluntness, he’s a naturally reserved person. It’s unlikely that an Aries man will reveal personal information quickly, even to people he considers his friends. This is partly because he values his independence and prefers to find solutions to his problems by himself. He keeps his personal life closely guarded and only shares it with those in his inner circle.
It’s important to understand that this reservedness isn’t synonymous with being shy. Aries men are some of the most outgoing out of any of the zodiac signs, and they have no problems communicating with other people. Simply put, they prefer to keep their personal lives close to their chest, though it’s possible to get them to open up if you’re looking for a more intimate relationship.
How to Make an Aries Man Open Up
It’s entirely possible that your Aries man won’t even open up enough to be blunt with you—at least not in any real way. For this reason, using what we know about Aries men and their preferred communication style, let’s now turn our attention to some specific strategies you can use to get an Aries man to open up to you.
Make sure to follow these tips in order to make your conversation with that special Aries more intimate and rewarding:
Open Up to Him
Though Aries men are natural leaders in many aspects of their lives, it’s quite likely that you’ll need to open up to him before he really opens up to you. This is because an Aries man is unlikely to have any sort of real conversation with someone he doesn’t trust. By opening up to him, you are showing him that you trust him with more vulnerable aspects of your life.
Let’s make one thing clear, however. While showing a more tender side of yourself and entrusting him with information you don’t tell to just anyone can endear him to open up to you in return, there’s no guarantee that your strategy will work. In fact, revealing information that is too personal (particularly if it’s negative) can actually be off-putting. Make sure to keep things real but relatively lighthearted. You don’t need to load him down with your deepest regrets.
Remember, as well, not to come off as too weak. A fire sign, a Leo man can’t understand extreme weakness—and in fact despises it. You’ll have to walk a fine line between your endearing vulnerability and off-putting weakness, but if you do it tactfully, you’ll increase your chances of actually getting him to share more personal information about his own life.
Give Him Time
In many cases, you’ll simply need to give him time. Understand that even if an Aries guy likes you, he may not open up right away—and that’s okay. Aries men are notoriously proud, which means they are unlikely to go to anyone for help when they encounter problems. Instead, they prefer solving them on their own, and even if they don’t have a solution, they are unlikely to divulge their weaknesses on someone they don’t know very well or aren’t sure they can trust yet.
Establishing this trust could understandably take time. In addition to you opening up to him, you’ll also likely need to be there to listen to the less personal things he says. Make sure you’re an attentive listener at all times—your care will help prove to him that you are someone in whom he can confide. Importantly, you don’t want to nag and pry for information, as this could make you seem like a busybody and not like someone who genuinely cares about the problems and issues that he’s facing.
This doesn’t mean, however, that you can’t let him know you’re there for him. Tell him you’re always there to hear him out if he needs it but don’t push it—the results may surprise you.
Ask Him Real Questions
Sometimes, however, an Aries man’s direct nature will lead to more revealing communication—all you need to do is ask. Remembering that it’s never a good idea to pressure an Aries man, you may have some luck asking him real, pointed questions. It’s not in an Aries man’s nature to lie, so you’ll likely get the truth out of him (even if it’s not a truth you want to hear).
Even if your Aries crush doesn’t tell you the whole truth, you may be able to glean from his body language more information than he thinks he’s letting on.
While an Aries man doesn’t thrive off compliments like a Leo man does, they do appreciate positive feedback every now and then. In fact, genuine compliments are one of the best ways to make an Aries man more personable and interested in you, both of which must happen before he opens up. It’s important to remember that Aries men aren’t after vain flattery. Instead, they prefer compliments that are real and believable. These men can be very intuitive and aren’t easily fooled, so any attempt to manipulate him to open up likely won’t work).
Consider complimenting him on his intelligence, his appearance, or his work ethic. Driven and ambitious, an Aries man loves hearing that his efforts and good qualities aren’t going unnoticed. This may end up being just the avenue you need to engage in deeper dialogue with your Aries crush.
Being dishonest with an Aries man is a surefire way to cause him to never open up. If your ultimate goal is to deepen conversation with an Aries (and thus deepen your relationship), you’ll need to be as honest as possible with him. If he finds out you’ve been lying to him, any sort of inroads you may have made with him could be up in flames. At the very least, he’ll be more reticent to tell you anything, especially as it relates to him on a personal level.
For this reason, it’s crucial that you give him straight answers when he’s talking to you. Remember: Aries men are okay with bluntness, and they usually aren’t offended by direct answers. Instead of beating around the bush with him, give him the respect of being honest and direct with him. More likely than not, this openness will inspire similar openness from him down the road.
The Bottom Line
Getting an Aries man to open up to you isn’t always easy. Fortunately, there are certain strategies you can employ to make the job easier. By being honest and patient, staying direct, and giving him compliments, you’ll be able to increase your chances of deepening conversation with that Aries man in your life.
Feel like you’re hitting a brick wall talking to your Aries crush? Make sure to follow the tips and tricks from Anna Kovach in Aries Man Secrets.
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